Comments on: Boy Crazy

By: student

student — Sun, 17 Dec 2006 04:33:14 +0000

hi,
i’m actually getting a little scared from all the comments! I am
14 years old and dating. I think I would die if my parents forbade me to see him. To me, it sounds like you don’t trust your daughter. What girl hasn’t lied to her parents about a guy, or anything else? I also think you’re being a bit harsh on her. She’s got to be
pretty sorry and yet you keep on withmthe punishments and all. If my parents did something like this to me, i would just want to rebel more. We always get our way, somehow or another, and there’s no
way our parents or anyone else can really stop us. You have to
let her be a teenager sooner or later.

By: FAErie GiRL

FAErie GiRL — Sat, 22 Apr 2006 15:06:07 +0000

Hi, I’m only 11 years old, but all my friends are going through the same things as Melissa. They’ve all becoming dumber and flunking in school! I’m the only one who’s getting good grades and I think I’m missing out on things. All my friends are just starring at stupid, gorilla guys. This sucks! HELP!

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By: celina

celina — Fri, 30 Sep 2005 12:57:39 +0000

I got myself in trouble the first time I dated. My parents forbid me to see the guy I was dating that time. I cried my heart out. I sort of hated my parents for doing that. Then I realized I was at fault. All they wanted was for me to be safe. I could have been in bigger trouble had they not done what they did. As for you, try to understand what your daughter is going through. She'll appreciate it.

By: riley

riley — Tue, 09 Aug 2005 23:15:15 +0000

hi, i noticed all your comments are from adults, which yes is probably what you wanted but its not really helping you see how melissa is feeling, so i thought i might say something. i came onto this website by accident but i decided to read it after seeing that it kind of reminded me of something i did when i was 14. im only 16 now, that why i think i might be able to tell you how shes feeling after all of this. i think if i were a mother i would have probably done the same thing, i know my mom basically did the same thing for me after i lied to go see a boy i liked. but…i dont think you should make it so she cant see the boy anymore, and i think maybe you shouldnt assume things of her so much. and yes i know i sound like a typical teen rebeling against parents but…i promise i see your point in everything you did. its just, sometimes parents get it into their heads that if a kid messes up they’ll turn into this horrible kid, which ill admit does happen sometimes…but she sounds like a pretty smart girl right? so im sure shes learned by now, id hope at least. and as for the boy, if hes calling your family just to be nice, it shows he really likes her. right? yes. hes trying..shes trying. give them a chance? but again, thats just my insight from a teen i guess.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 26 Jul 2005 00:15:26 +0000

she does babysit when she can get the work… but at 14, she’s too young in this state to get a ‘real’ job quite yet .. and school is out, but thanks for the tip

Trust me, we’re keeping that girl busy around here after her shanaigans!

By: parent

parent — Mon, 25 Jul 2005 20:39:09 +0000

She needs to get a real job. She has too much time on her hands.Part time job and school will keep her busy.

By: amy

amy — Thu, 30 Jun 2005 18:25:58 +0000

hey my names amy! im 14! my boyfriends parents band him from seeing me a wile back!! as they disapproved!!!i just wanted to say that, it really really hurts wen parents do that, wateva there reason maybe!i dont think you should do that to your daughter! my boyfriend hated his parents for it!we are not even aloud to be friends no more! i understand wat your daughter did was wrong, and the lieing must of hurt you…but being to hard on her can make things worse! in later years, your daughter will look back n see how cross you were with her, and shell no wat she did was wrong…but if she went to that much effort!then he meant sumthing to her! n parents think they have the rite to put a end to it! but it doesnt end!!

By: Dave

Dave — Mon, 06 Jun 2005 18:24:19 +0000

Lisa, Iâ€™ve never read your blog before, I followed a link from Boots & Sabers. I donâ€™t know if youâ€™re still taking suggestions but hereâ€™s my two cents.

I couldnâ€™t disagree more with comment #1. Kids only rebel because we put restrictions on them?? Well, thatâ€™s one way of looking at it. And criminals only commit crime because we outlaw certain activities. Sadly, even adults canâ€™t always be trusted to make good decisions. Kids are even less capable.

Her well-being is not some experiment for you to run. Telling her â€œI told you soâ€ when she winds up pregnant, infected, raped, or worse is not an adequate form of parenting.

I think you are taking appropriate measures. The specific punishments / groundings are for you to decide, because you know her best â€“ but the important thing is that you stick to your guns. She is too young to understand the implications of what she is doing.

Does it matter that you may have done the same thing at that age? No!! You didnâ€™t have the maturity that you now have â€“ and she doesnâ€™t have it, either. Thatâ€™s why parents have to do the hard work, even when it conflicts directly with what your kids want.

And she really IS too young. She might be old enough to be supervised with boys, as parents did a couple of hundred years ago â€“ but not to be allowed to â€œdateâ€ as though she were really ready for that. But itâ€™s a hard line to draw. Cell phones and the internet only make it worse.

And the parents who disagree with you â€“ who allow their junior-high girls to dress like Brittney Spears, who freely give them boob jobs, cell phones, internet access and birth control â€“ are in the wrong. They take the easy way out, attempting to justify things by treating their daughters as little adults with the sense that 30-year-olds have. Well, they both wind up paying the price.

Why should you believe me? Iâ€™m a police officer and a prosecutor. I know a great deal about the activities, and maturity levels, of an awful lot of kids. Just because they are old enough to drive and to get into PG-13 movies does not make them adults. This goes double for the boys of course.

Keep it up, and good luck! â€“ Dave